Types of dysfunctional families
Either one parent, both, or other family members have potent drug, alcohol, or gambling addictions. Which strongly influences the family well being.
One or both parents consider their children to be their possessions. Therefore, they feel they can exploit themselves physically, emotionally, and financially.
Parents have a stronghold over children. The belief guides an individual, social movement, institution, class, or large group.
One of the parents or other family members shows physical or mental violence. Children witness all types of drama from a tender age and continue to live in fear of physical and psychological violence into adulthood.
When one or both parents reward bad behavior in one child and punish another child’s good behavior for maintaining peace and avoiding conflict.
Simple tips for dealing with dysfunctional family members
Don’t expect a positive response.
This is the rule of thumb to help you effectively deal with dysfunctional family members. First, it would help if you gave up all types of positive expectations. This is the essential nature of any dysfunctional family. No matter what you do, you will get the blame and be accused of your efforts and actions. Therefore, do not expect anything positive from your dysfunctional family or loved ones.
It is necessary to keep calm when conversing with your family member or someone close to you. However, this is easier said than done. Keeping calm is not always possible if your history with your loved one is negativeadversermore, it will help if you practice relaxation techniques to stay calm. Taking deep breaths before engaging in a conversation is also helpful.
You cannot change your family.
You need to realize the universal truth that you can’t change your family members. Their thoughts, views, and ways of communicating will not change. Once you realize this, you will be better positioned to deal with your dysfunctional family member.
Think before you speak.
Many regular family discussions may take a sudden unfavorable turn. For example, family members may yell, and the environment may become unfriendly. To avoid this, don’t participate in the discussion and avoid accusing other people. Yet, it does not mean you cannot voice your opinions and become a part of constructive criticism. But you have to realize that your ideas and criticism may not always be taken on a positive note.
Keep things civil as far as possible.
You have to understand that conversations cannot always be friendly. Being an active participant in an unhealthy discussion can ask for more problems. Always maintain your calm. And make conscious efforts to take the conversation in a positive direction. Try your best to be civil and keep your tone as soft as possible.
Walk away when things get out of control.
It may so happen that even after trying hard, things may not turn for the better. Discussions may turn into accusations, and the yelling starts. You may try to direct the talks to a more constructive and positive one. But unfortunately, dysfunctional family members do not want this to happen. Therefore, feel free to walk away when things don’t seem to work for you.
You cannot please everyone.
It is almost impossible to keep everyone happy. Trying to achieve this will only cause more and more stress to you, your life, and your business.
It would help if you told yourself the difference between what you want and what others want from you. For example, do you wish to obey every command of your family member, even if it means putting your needs last? Once you can answer this question. You will be able to avoid getting exploited. In addition, you also need to understand the difference between what you want to do and what others want you to do. Once you get this clarity, it will be easier to draw a boundary wall around yourself so that you don’t fall easy prey to the demands of your dysfunctional family members.
Do not feel guilty.
Not every situation is in your control. You are not the only person responsible for clearing up all the problems. You cannot always be there to rescue them and fix their issues every time.
You are not a superhero and do not have a solution to all the problems. It is better to ask for help from people or other members of the family whom you consider to be functional enough. Talk to them and ask for their help and support.
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