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Life after caregiving can be overwhelming
My life after caregiving was a mix of emotions! But I knew my loved ones would want me to live the best life after caregiving. After the sadness and grief had become manageable, fear set in. What was I going to do with the rest of my life? I have been out of touch with so much, how do I do this? Do you feel this way?
Caregiving has been very gratifying and taught me a lot, but now what? There is no set timeline to grieve, so allow yourself to feel your feelings. Take your time to physically, emotionally, and mentally get over life after caregiving.
Thinking about my life after caregiving
You must come up with a plan of action to ensure you take the proper steps. While life after caregiving can be fearful, it can be quite exciting. There are so many possibilities for what you can do! Accept where you are and where you want to go. You may think your life is in shambles, but life does not stop for caregiving, life after caregiving can look very different from when you started. You may have a family and they are happy to have their mom and wife back or are single and want to reconnect with friends or try new things. Here is an article that might get you started in the right direction.
Write everything down
Get a notebook out and write everything down. Then, start a list of what you wanted to do with your life, the possibilities are endless. List things like:
- Go back to school
Do you want to go into a different line of work or start your own business? Would you like to go back to school? There are many affordable online courses available as well. Have you been neglecting your health and need a complete physical? Start off slow and look for affordable options. Do you want to pursue a new relationship? Are your finances in order or do you need to speak with a financial advisor? I can connect you with one if you would like.
Now it is time to set goals
Get a calendar to start putting your goals into play. For each of the categories on your list, write down where you would like to work, or what types of business you may want to start. Would you like to consider furthering your education, list the different types of things you would like to pursue? List the different types of problems you may have with your health and figure out how to fix them. You may want to go to the dentist or get physical. Life after caregiving can be a daunting task but with the proper organization, you can do this.
Outline the plan of action
For each category you have identified, list one to three things you need to do now, to make your goals a reality. Now that you have a plan of action, here are some suggestions to get you started. Get on the internet, go to the library, make some phone calls. Whatever you need to do to make your goals a reality. Check out this article on “how to get back to work”
Do you need help with life after caregiving?
Dealing with this can be irritating, but I am here to help you with anything you may need. With the right knowledge, you can do this. Don’t forget about taking care of yourself and keeping your life going while you are thinking of the many possibilities. I’m here to assist you on this journey, schedule your planning session with me so we can look at how to keep your life running smoothly. You might feel alone, but you are not. Let me help you, I have been where you are, I cared for three different family members with Alzheimer’s, Congestive Heart Failure, Bladder Cancer and even went through a family member’s taking his own life at 85.
Develop structure in your life
No matter what you decide to do with the rest of your life, develop some structure will help you figure out what you want to do. Start with small things, like making your bed every morning. This will get you back into the swing of things. Take some time to develop new things.
- Start exercising
- Re-establish your sleeping patterns
- Socialize with your friends or attend different groups
- Try new foods
Much of your daily routine used to revolve around caring for your loved one. Now you may have to change your daily habits. Also, start a journal to write down your thoughts to see where you want to be in life, check this gratitude journal out.
Enjoy the new possibilities
Life after caregiving can be stressful, but the new possibilities can be very exciting as well. What you have learned by being a caregiver can help you in your new possibilities. As a caregiver, you have endured many new things.
- Dealing with frustration
- Making a positive difference
These are the same qualities you will need after life after caregiving. You will also have the confidence to do anything you put your mind to, because of caregiving. There is not a perfect timetable to reenter your life after caregiving. Take your time, get help when you feel stuck and rely on your friends, family or me to help you navigate the process.
Caregiving is a sincere and genuine commitment. But life after caregiving can be stressful but not impossible. The reality is that millions of caregivers face the same situation and overcome it just the same. Caregiving is a powerful skill set and will help you going forward in life after caregiving. If you decide to continue caregiving, here is a great article on working and caregiving. Also, here are some great caregiving books that might help too.